martes, 25 de noviembre de 2014

5 Mistakes Parents Make With Teens and Tweens

Your child isn't a little kid anymore. They're a teen, or a tween -- and it's time to tweak your parenting skills to keep up with them.
Yes, they're probably moodier now than when they were young. And you have new things to think about, like curfews, dating, new drivers, and friends who make you raise your eyebrows.
No doubt about it: Your teen, or tween, will test your limits, and your patience. But they're still your child. And, though they won't admit it, they still need you!
The key is knowing what efforts are worth it, and which ones backfire.

1. Expecting the Worst

Teenagers get a bad rap, says Richard Lerner, PhD, director of the Institute for Applied Research in Youth Development at Tufts University. Many parents approach raising teenagers as an ordeal, believing they can only watch helplessly as their lovable children transform into unpredictable monsters. 
But that sets you -- and your teen -- up for several unhappy, unsatisfying years together.
“The message we give teenagers is that they’re only ‘good’ if they’re not doing ‘bad’ things, such as doing drugs, hanging around with the wrong crowd, or having sex,” Lerner says. 
It could become a self-fulfilling prophecy: Negative expectations can actually promote the behavior you fear most. A Wake Forest University study showed that teens whose parents expected them to get involved in risky behaviors reported higher levels of these behaviors one year later.
Lerner's advide: Focus on your child's interests and hobbies, even if you don’t understand them. You could open a new path of communication, reconnect with the child you love, and learn something new.

2. Reading Too Many Parenting Books

Rather than trusting their instincts, many parents turn to outside experts for advice on how to raise teens. “Parents can tie themselves into knots trying to follow the advice they read in books,” says Robert Evans, EdD, author of Family Matters: How Schools Can Cope with the Crisis in Child Rearing.
It's not that parenting books are bad.
“Books become a problem when parents use them to replace their own innate skills,” Evans says. “If the recommendations and their personal style don’t fit, parents wind up more anxious and less confident with their own children.”
Use books to get perspective on confusing behavior -- and then put the book down and trust that you've learned what you need to learn. Get clear about what matters most to you and your family.

3. Sweating the Small Stuff

Maybe you don't like your tween daughter's haircut or choice of clothes. Or perhaps she didn't get the part in the play you know she deserves.
But before you step in, look at the big picture.
If it's not putting your child at risk, give her the leeway to make age-appropriate decisions and learn from the consequences of her choices.
“A lot of parents don't want growing up to involve any pain, disappointment, or failure,” Evans says. But protecting your child from the realities of life takes away valuable learning opportunities -- before they're out on their own.  
Of course, you'll still be there for guidance and comfort -- you're still the parent. But challenge yourself to step back and let your child know you're there for them.

4. Ignoring the Big Stuff

If you suspect your child is using alcohol or drugs, do not look the other way. Even if it's "just" alcohol or marijuana -- or even if it reminds you of your own youth -- you must take action now, before it becomes a bigger problem.
“The years when kids are between 13 and 18 years old are an essential time for parents to stay involved,” Amelia M. Arria, PhD, tells WebMD. She is director of the University of Maryland's Center on Young Adult Health and Development. Parents might consider teen drinking a rite of passage because they drank when they were that age. “But the stakes are higher now,” Arria says.
Watch for unexplained changes in your teen’s behavior, appearance, academic performance, and friends. And remember, it's not just illicit drugs that are abused now -- prescription drugs and even cough medicines and household products are also in the mix.
If you find empty cough medicine packaging in your child’s trash or backpack, if bottles of medicine go missing from your cabinet, or if you find unfamiliar pills, pipes, rolling papers, or matches, your child could be abusing drugs.
Take these signs seriously and get involved. Safeguard all the medicines you have: Know which products are in your home and how much medication is in each package or bottle.

5. Too Much, or Too Little, Discipline

Some parents, sensing a loss of control over their teens' behavior, crack down every time their child steps out of line. Others avoid all conflict for fear their teens will push them away.
You don't have to do either of those things. It's about finding a balance between obedience and freedom.
If you put too much emphasis on obedience, you may be able to make your teen or tween fall into line -- but at what price? Teens raised in rigid environments miss out on the chance to develop problem-solving or leadership skills -- because you're making the decisions for them.
Yet too little discipline doesn't help, either. Teens and tweens need clear structure and rules to live by as they start to explore the world outside. 
As their parent, it's up to you to set your family's core values and communicate them through your words and actions. That's being an authoritative parent, an approach that "helps children develop the skills they need to govern themselves in appropriate ways," Lerner says.
Remember, your influence runs deeper than you may think. Most teens say they want to spend more time with their parents. Keep making time for your child throughout the tween and teen years. Even when it doesn’t show, you provide the solid ground they know they can always come home to.

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lunes, 17 de noviembre de 2014

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viernes, 7 de noviembre de 2014

About Michigan State University ( visit November 10)

MSU  Facts
Michigan State University Spartans work to advance the common good in uncommon ways. The nation’s pioneer land-grant university, MSU began as a bold experiment that democratized higher education and helped bring science and innovation into everyday life. Today, MSU is one of the top research universities in the world—on one of the biggest, greenest campuses in the nation—and is home to a diverse community of dedicated students and scholars, athletes and artists, scientists and leaders.
Founded in 1855
Prototype for 69 land-grant institutions established under the Morrill Act of 1862
First institution of higher learning in the United States to teach scientific agriculture


Nickname: Spartans
Colors: Green and white
Mascot: Sparty
Conference: Big Ten

Campus profile

Located in East Lansing, three miles east of Michigan’s capitol in Lansing
5,200-acre campus with 2,100 acres in existing or planned development
538 buildings, including 95 academic buildings
Approximately 19,600 acres throughout Michigan used for agricultural and natural resources research and education
More than 200 programs of undergraduate, graduate, and professional study
Outstanding record of students earning prestigious national and international scholarships: Goldwater, 40; Rhodes, 17; Churchill, 16; Truman, 16; Marshall, 19; Udall, nine; Hollings, six; Gates, four; and Mitchell, one
Freshman class profile (middle 50 percent of fall 2014 entering class): high school GPA, 3.4–3.9; SAT combined score (math and critical reading), 1030–1210; ACT composite score, 24–28
More than 275 study abroad programs on all continents in more than 60 countries
Degree-granting colleges
  • College of Agriculture and Natural Resources • Dean: Fred Poston
  • Residential College in Arts and Humanities • Dean: Stephen L. Esquith
  • College of Arts and Letters • Acting Dean: Elizabeth H. Simmons
  • Eli Broad College of Business/Eli Broad Graduate School of Management • Dean: Stefanie A. Lenway
  • College of Communication Arts and Sciences • Acting Dean: Stephen Lacy
  • College of Education •  Dean: Donald E. Heller
  • College of Engineering • Dean: Leo Kempel
  • College of Human Medicine • Dean: Marsha Rappley
  • James Madison College • Dean: Sherman W. Garnett
  • College of Law (affiliated) • Dean: Joan Howarth
  • Lyman Briggs College • Dean: Elizabeth H. Simmons
  • College of Music • Dean: James Forger
  • College of Natural Science • Dean: R. James Kirkpatrick
  • College of Nursing • Dean: Mary H. Mundt
  • College of Osteopathic Medicine • Dean: William D. Strampel
  • College of Social Science • Dean: Marietta L. Baba
  • College of Veterinary Medicine • Dean: John Baker
Tuition (2014–15)
Resident undergraduate students
  • Lower division: $440/credit
  • Upper division: $490.25/credit
Resident graduate students: $646/credit
Nonresident undergraduate students
  • Lower division: $1,165.50/credit
  • Upper division: $1,202.25/credit
Nonresident graduate students: $1,269/credit
Housing (2014–15)
Residence hall rates
  • Undergraduate (double room/silver meal plan): $4,577/semester
  • Graduate (permanent single room/$300 food credit plus 75 meal accesses): $4,050/semester
Apartment rates
  • One bedroom (standard): $650/month
  • Two bedrooms (standard): $774/month
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25 varsity squads: 12 intercollegiate sports for men and 13 intercollegiate sports for women
2014 Rose Bowl champions 
17 straight NCAA appearances by men’s basketball team, including six Final Four appearances
One of the largest intramural sports programs in the nation
Facilities: Spartan Stadium, Breslin Student Events Center, Daugherty Football Building/Skandalaris Football Center, Berkowitz Basketball Complex, Munn Ice Arena, Jenison Field House, McLane Baseball Stadium (Kobs Field), DeMartin Stadium (soccer), Forest Akers Golf Courses, McCaffree Pool, Ralph Young Field (field hockey/track), Old College Field, MSU Tennis Facility, and three intramural facilities
Culture and entertainment
Broad Art Museum: committed to exploring global contemporary culture and ideas through art
Wharton Center for Performing Arts: four venues–Cobb Great Hall, Pasant Theatre, MSU Auditorium, and Fairchild Theatre–host a variety of cultural events
Breslin Student Events Center: state-of-the-art arena hosts special events such as concerts, commencements, ice shows, sporting events, banquets, conventions, and trade shows
MSU Museum: offers anthropological, biological, folklife, geological, and historical exhibits and programs
Abrams Planetarium: houses a Digistar 5 computer graphics planetarium projector and a 150-seat Sky Theater
Horticulture Gardens: six distinct gardens over 7.5 acres provide a living laboratory where plants and people grow together
Student organizations
Registered student groups: more than 600 each year
Student media: The State News and Impact 89 FM radio
Greek-letter community: more than 50 nationally affiliated organizations
Programs for persons with disabilities
Resource Center for Persons with Disabilities: provides disability-related information and referrals

lunes, 3 de noviembre de 2014

10 Things Children Learn From Parents

Today I am sharing 10 valuable qualities that children can learn by their parents example. Let me tell you I was lucky to grow up as the youngest child of a loving family. As you can see I am not saying aperfect family but a loving one.  We had plenty of imperfections, plenty of craziness, plenty of hard times and good times, but I always knew that I was loved. The example of many of my family members taught me far more than anything they ever said to me. Inspired by those things that I learned as a child, today I share this post.
10 amazing qualities children can learn from their parents at #parenting #kids

…here they are!

Be an Example
10 amazing qualities children can learn from their parents at #parenting #kids

Do you remember as a kid wanting to be just like your dad or mom?
 I used to play for hours dressing up with my mom and sister’s clothing and heels, to look just like them.
HOME is the SCHOOL where our kids learn the most.
We are the book from where they learn the best and the worst of habits. 
The way we speak, the way we treat others, the way we react to situations,
will be far more powerful than the things we teach them.
Be Positive
10 amazing qualities children can learn from their parents at #parenting #kids

Bullying, name calling, and lack of encouragment is too often part of our kid’s lives.
As parents we have the power to be a source of “sunshine”.
Even as our children make mistakes we can reaffirm with them that every day is a new chance to grow and become the best we can. We can build confidence and teach them how to have a positive attitude
as we choose ourselves to see the donut instead of the hole in our daily lives.
Are we complainers or are we happy?
Are we always thinking ” if only…” or are we always looking for ways to make good things happen?

 If we want our children to have a positive attitude we need to be optimistic ourselves.

Hard Work 
10 amazing qualities children can learn from their parents at #parenting #kids

I can honestly say that one of the greatest blessing in my life was to grow up without much.
From a very young age I learned that money didn’t grow on trees. Working hard taught me to be self-reliant and  gave me a sense of accomplishment. From hard work I learned discipline, sacrifice, believing in myself, and this gave value to the things around me.
 If we want our children to be hard workers we need to provide opportunities for them.

Dream Big
10 amazing qualities children can learn from their parents at #parenting #kids

When I was a young child I was asked many times what I wanted to be when I grew up.

No matter how crazy my future occupations could be, I never heard once comments such as “that’s stupid”, “no, you won’t” or even “why would you want to do that?”.
I always received from my family reassurance that my dreams would come true.
Now, I do everyday what I love and I believe that much of my confidence came from my family believing in me before I did.
Let’s be dream builders!

Family First
10 amazing qualities children can learn from their parents at #parenting #kids

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For me one of the biggest challenges of being a parent is how to manage time.
There is so much to do and so many things that can distract us from what matters the most. 
Come on, let’s get real Pinterest has to be on the very top of the list!
I feel that too often it is easy to give family our “leftover time” instead of making family the priority of our lives.
10 amazing qualities children can learn from their parents at #parenting #kids

It really requires unselfish loyalty to put our family first.
Family requires time.
Reading books, making and eating dinner together, playing games, creating memories,
all of these things require OUR VALUABLE TIME.
Trust me, I know how hard it is but I also know the joy that just a family can provide!

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I really believe that gratitude is the key to happiness!
Gratitude was taught in my home every time we bowed our heads in prayer, gratitude was taught every time we didn’t complain for the lack of food, gratitude was taught every time we shared, gratitude was not a word in my family it was a way of living and for that I am eternally grateful.
 If we want our children to be grateful we need to be thankful ourselves.

10 amazing qualities children can learn from their parents at #parenting #kids

My mom always used to say  “you don’t have to love them but no matter what you must respect them.”
What a great advice this has been in my own life!
Manners are the simplest way to show respect for others!
Do our children see us treat others with respect, even those from other races or beliefs?
At home, do they hear us say thank you, please, and you are welcome to them?
Do they see us opening doors or holding them open for someone else to go first?
Do they see us restraining ourselves from profanity when things don’t go as we wish?
Do we treat them with respect?
Do we respect our own selves?
 If we want our children to have manners we need to be polite ourselves.

10 amazing qualities children can learn from their parents at #parenting #kids

 We can teach children to be trustworthy in so many simple ways.
We can show them with our actions that we are trustworthy.
It is super important for us as parents to think before we make promises to our children.
They need to believe in us, they need to believe that they can count on us. 
 If we want our children to be trustworthy we need to be truthful ourselves.

10 amazing qualities children can learn from their parents at #parenting #kids

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Courage is what makes us stand up for what we believe in. We need to have the courage of not only dreaming but to come out of our comfort zone to become the best version of what we can be. Courage reminds us to stand up when we are afraid.  
Courage makes us persevere in those situations when fear is telling us otherwise.
 If we want our children to be courageous we need to show courage first.

Love Yourself
10 amazing qualities children can learn from their parents at #parenting #kids

How many times do we say out loud without thinking things like… ” I am fat”, “I am not smart”?
How many times do we act or treat ourselves like we are not worthy of the best that there is?
Would you agree with the fact that we women especially have a tendency to compare ourselves?
The reality is that in order to love others I need to love me first.
Our confidence will give confidence to our children.
If we want our kiddos to believe that they are beautiful regardless of the size of their pants,
we need to be comfortable in our own skin.
If we want our children to believe they are precious beyond measure,
we need to remember that simple fact ourselves.
It is as simple as that!
10 amazing qualities children can learn from their parents at #parenting #kids

I am not perfect parent and everyday I learn something knew.
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